Bondage Basics

As you open the doors of BDSM, different kinds of restraint devices will most likely greet you at the door. Quilted, edible, studded, silk, chains, ribbons --- restraints come in different shapes and sizes.

On the more accessible side of the spectrum, cuffs always do the trick. But have you ever tried tying bondage knots? It has always played second fiddle to the straightforward handcuffs. Still, the sense of fulfillment of tying and untying the restraints yourself will give off an extreme sensual intensity! It is more challenging than the user-friendly lock and key, but the level of seduction and satisfaction will go off the charts! This power play sexually binds (literally) the both of you as master and servant. It also opens up the opportunity to add to your skills and hone your creativity.

Imagine sweat trickling down your forehead from the heat of passion plus the effort you put into those intricate bondage rope knots. Earn immense respect and trust from your sub. On top of that, you are also doing your own sexual wellbeing a favor.

In the BDSM universe, tying the knot means more literal than what the phrase is usually used for. Learning how to tie bondage knots is a nifty skill in the bedroom. For the budding kinkster, here are some of the things you need to know before you start to…Tie ‘Em Up!

On Choosing Restraints:

You can get creative with your bondage gears. Local hardware shops and department stores carry some items you can use. On the other hand, if you want specialized products, specifically-designed for BDSM aficionados, you are in the right place! You can go hardcore with bondage rope or go for soft satin ties. Lingerie items such as scarves, hosiery, and even g-strings can be used for bondage! For as long as your partner is comfortable and consents to it, you can use any ties you can manipulate with your hands. Durability, intensity, and flexibility play a significant role in choosing your items.

On Consent:

“Is this okay” is a phrase that you should abuse. Before you purchase your first bondage knot gear, bring up the activity to your partner. It is crucial to get educated and exchange your thoughts on it. Agree on a safe word and take the time to know each other’s parts so as not to trigger pain in any sensitive area. If they give you the green light, then start shopping!

On Safety:

Safety is sexy! Bondage is not equal to impact play, so do not make it hurt when it is not supposed to hurt! Your ties should be tight enough to restrict movement without cutting circulation. If you are fastening their body parts against furnishings and fixtures, make sure these are sturdy enough to hold both your weights. Lastly, checking up on your sub or partner from time to time to ensure safety, and it would establish a stronger relationship. Hence, the possibility of bondage play being a regular thing!

On Parts and Positions:

Bondage is for the entire body. You can tie up anything that can be tied up but do so with a gentle stride. Newbies are advised to start from the limbs and gradually upgrade to the torso and full-body suspension! You can play around with positions. Bind your sub’s wrists to your furniture or surface of choice.

• -Let them stand up while you bind their arms backward, wrists fixed on a doorknob.
• -Fasten their wrists to bed poles while they lay down.
• -Ask them to bend over while you tie their wrists around the legs of a chair.
• -Tie their wrists and ankles together while they lay down on their stomach.

All these can be achieved when you know the basic bondage knots. (Reminder: stay away from the face or neck if you are novice knotter.) Start from simple bondage knots that you can master before going full speed ahead with more complex positions.

On Simple Bondage Knots:

When your inner girl scout becomes rusty on survival skills such as this, a visual guide can help you see this childhood skill differently. Those comprehensive BDSMS manuals may be a tough nut to crack, but this neat guide on useful knots illustrates easy and handy knots anyone can learn!

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The recipe for a successful bondage play is the right knot or combination of knots for your specific purposes. Throw in blindfolds, sexy BDSM lingerie, and you get yourself a spicy sexual concoction. Practice these by yourself before you show off your newfound skill to your partner. Just make sure to have a pair of handy scissors ready in case it gets caught up in a tangle!

Be Naughty. Be Knotty!

Physical, mental, emotional, and sexual health are just some of the perks of learning bondage. Pinned down and tied up – the position you never thought would ignite so much pleasure. It is a different kind of communication wherein you both rely on your body language. Building a deeper sense of trust and intimacy can be reinforced just by you learning to make a couple of loops! Do not worry if you stumble upon a learning curve, there is beauty in growing and improving through the experience. Have a sit down with your partner to communicate which parts you like and do not like. It will make you both excited for the next time!

As much as we would like to be born a natural bondage boss, it takes skill and practice to earn that kind of esteem. Everyone starts out as a fledgling, but you can still build those skills with the help of guides (such as this article), and you will eventually bloom into a bondage buff! Are you up for the challenge?