A Guide to Help You Dress Like a Dominatrix

Have you ever imagined how it would feel like to conquer?

Power. It is a word a lot of women have struggled with for a long time. Coming from a once male-dominant world, it can become elusive. In this day and age, we have resorted to fashion to amp up our confidence. Though power dressing can mean a lot of things like a boss girl pantsuit to a flashy mini dress. Women are innately powerful, and despite our femininity, we can triumph over anything we desire!

You cannot conquer the world overnight, but you can definitely take over the bedroom!

Dressing like a dominatrix will make you reach the pinnacle of power dressing. A dominatrix is a female who takes the dominant role in sexual activities, typicallyin BDSM. The dominatrix often takes control of the submissive, causing them to be a servant or forcing them to complete degrading tasks. You will see a lot of leather and vinyl and whips, masks, handcuffs, a lot of fetishes, and tons of skin.

Dominatrix or not, you can add a bit (or a lot) of kink in your ensemble. If you are one of the Dom-curious, here are some ideas that will complete your look, whether you want to use this style for seduction or for everyday use.

Love On Top | Dominance Styles

Do you know what type of dominant you are? The term dominant is a general word used to describe someone on the receiving end of a relationship, particularly the person who takes control.

Dominant is only an umbrella term for a myriad of D types. Yes, dominance does not follow a cookie-cutter approach. The term dominatrix encompasses a whole universe of styles that differs from one relationship to another. Dominants have very particular ways of how they express their power. Finding out your color in the whole spectrum of BDSM is majorly important! It will help you in:

(a) communicating your needs to your partner.

(b) breaking the stereotypes which are usually depicted in pop culture.

(c) determining what do dominatrix wear and how to tailor your own sartorial style

To give you a little push, Julbie delves into the variety of dominant characters. Even if this is only the tip of the iceberg, this list can guide you through doing your own digging in a bid to find out your true BDSM identity.

Top

A dominant is anyone who takes control over the bottom during the whole bedroom scene. Like a leading role in a movie, there is little power exchange as tops lead the whole sex dynamic. They wield the toys such as whips, crops, and paddles, which are used for discipline. Tops might conquer the bedroom, but do not necessarily take their dominance outside those walls.

Femdom/Dom

Femdoms, which are short for a female dominatrix, have particular rules imposed and protocols established. Whether or not it is solely for sex or outside factors, doms expect their subs to submit to these given set of rules and systems set by the dom. These are established and made clear from the onset of the relationship.

Sadist

A sadist takes pleasure in inflicting pain on their sub or bottom. Impact play is the central theme of a sadist. Hurting, slapping, hitting are the sexual activities they enjoy doing to their partner. At the same time, they expect little to no power exchange whatsoever. Expectedly, they carry a wide range of torture devices like floggers, nipple clamps, mouth gags, and chains.

Mistress/Master

A Mistress or a master sees their subs as ‘slaves’ who are always at their beck and call. The roles of both parties commit full-time to this kind of power exchange. Being a step ahead from dominants, masters take over their subs lives 24/7. Like doms, there are rituals and restrictions enacted by the mistress that the slaves consent to. This dominant type expects full control over the slaves and everything that they do.

Owner

Somewhat similar to a master, owners consider their subs as property. Sex is not necessarily in the picture, but activities are often evocative to being pet. Thus, leashes, collars, and cages can be put to use.

Mommy/Daddy

If masters have slaves, mommies and daddies have babies. This dominant type takes on a parental and nurturing role. With tendencies to be tender, playful, and loving, a mommy or daddy treats their subs as treasure and takes care of them to a great extent. This dynamic holds a lot of cuddles and affection, but could also take a disciplinarian turn.

Mentor

A mentor takes an active part in their sub’s lives by guiding and teaching them. It heavily involves a technique in the bedroom that the mentor has mastered and desires to pass it on their bottom. Even going as far as teaching the submissive to become a dominant themselves. This teacher role can also be extended to beyond intercourse.

Which title roughly represents you as a dominant? If you do not see yourself falling into a specific category, do not fret! You get to define dominatrix! This list is not the end all be all of D/s styles. There are still a lot of branches to the already-long list of general terms in BDSM.

Be your own kind of dominant because only you can put a title on yourself. You are free to configure your BDSM system in any way which works for your relationship! No one is expected to imitate someone else’s sexual routine or style. Explore, experiment, and let your true colors shine. 

Dress Up in Latex, Dress Up for Sex

BDSM Gear is the heart of the power play. To play the part, it only makes sense to look the part, right? After you find out what your dominant style is, jump right into the bondage experience by submerging yourself into a sea of leather, vinyl, and latex. These are the materials that practically define dominatrix and all that it stands for.

Itching to try on the latex trend but quite unsure what it would feel like? Are you one of those who always ogle at those femdom costumes but were too hesitant to actually try it yourself? Newbies, read up! We are here to shed some light on the subject.

Latex clothing is often designed to be skin-tight. The elasticity of the material is a great option when you want to amplify those curves. Amplified curves are equal to boosted confidence!

As opposed to how it looks, a high-quality latex number will actually feel smooth and slippery to the skin. Sweat is normal, especially if you take it to more humid places, as the textile is unlike cotton, which absorbs moisture. When you find the right size and fit for you, it will feel like a second skin. When the fabric brushes your skin, you will feel a sensation that only ‘wet look’ materials can give!

It has become a staple for dominatrix and kinksters because of the empowering feeling it gives. The lighness will feel as good as being naked, sometimes even better! It teases and seduces without giving skin contact. It reinforces the essence of BDSM play scenes: giving and taking control. Apart from the boost it provides internally, latex is also a magnet for attention! In a nutshell, if you want to be dressed to kill... this sensual material is the way to go!

 

Dominate the Streets

Thanks to 50 Shades of Grey, the Dominatrix style is also taking over the sartorial universe. You have seen a lot of dominatrix-style clothing in the red carpet but have you can incorporate it on a day-to-day basis. This is your common je ne sais quoi and women often shrug off the idea off since t sounds too daring. Dominatrix clothing is all about being bold and daring... and that’s a good thing! In this sense, you should opt for pieces that make a statement – a loud statement. Follow these no-fail formulas when you want to wear a smidge of dominatrix in your everyday outfits (without having to use a whip.)

Choker + Basic Shirt – Pair a soft shirt with a hard accessory like the choker. Chokers have become a household name when it comes to dominatrix accessories. A buckled choker will certainly give off badass vibes when paired with a plain and simple top. This is a very wearable fetish accessory that can bring the bold look effortlessly into daily outfits.

Leather boots + Mini Skirt – Leather boots adds that instant edgy feeling to any ensemble. If you are wearing a micro skirt, take the sex appeal up a notch by slipping on those thigh-high leather boots. Whether it is platform, stiletto or flat, it will always exude sexiness.

Mesh Top + Bra – This will give off the naked vibe without really being nude. It will expose a lot of skin but still keep you completely clothed. Show off a black bra under a mesh top or wear nipple covers to give an illusion of going commando.

Latex Pants + Blouse – Mainstream fashion is not a stranger to leather pants but it is definitely still a dominatrix staple. When you do not want to go beyond what is dress code appropriate, but you are thirsty for that powerful feeling of dominatrix clothing, leather pants paired with your crisp blouse is a sharp contrast.

 

Dominate the Sheets

Sexy, Seductive and Dominant is a deadly combination, especially when used in the bedroom. Switch up the dynamics and leave your man begging for more when you learn how to take control. It is easier to dominate when you look the part so a lot of vinyl and leather lingerie will help boost that spirit.

Lingerie in Vinyl and Leather is the textbook look of a dominatrix. Go unfiltered with the most over-the-top bondage lingerie and the most sexually stimulating accessories. While the streets are conquerable with subtle hints of dominatrix clothing, you can go full-on-dom behind those closed doors.

Black, leather, mesh, and fishnets are some of the details that you need to look for when it comes to BDSM lingerie. There a multitude of ways to put together an entirely erotic ensemble without going in the costume-y direction (think cat woman). The rule of thumb is: when you feel powerful in it, you are steering in the right direction.

A corset gives a message that you cannot just touch a dominatrix’s body without having to work for it. Though it gives a tough and armor-like vibe, it still super feminine in the way it hugs your curves and cinches your waist. This makes a corset a timeless dominatrix piece

Cuffs are an easy accessory to pull off as it is resemblant of a bracelet. A true-blue dominatrix cannot do without her cuffs. It is the perfect cherry on top of an already striking dominatrix outfit.

Some dominants enjoy role play mixed into the routine. Fetish fashion is not a stranger to sexy costumes, but BDSM costumes never forget to leave a distinct characteristic.

In this category, bunny costumes are a heavily rotated motif, not only during Halloween costumes but also in bedroom play. Hugh Hefner's’ Playboy bunnies have taken the playful image of these characters and turned them into a sex symbol.

Bunny suits are the erotic counterpart of those sweet bunny costumes. It is an exciting detail to add to your usual domme outfit. Surprise your sub with any of your dominatrix clothing and pair it with a black fetish bunny eye mask— you are now ready to hop and be a top! You could also come in full gear with a kinky bodysuit with bunny ears that are dipped in shiny latex— be a snack that they will crave for!

Dominate the Shoot

BDSM is also a stimulating photo shoot theme! Document your kink by having a fun boudoir photo shoot! Think about all the electrifying and breathtaking photos you’ll come up with when you take your Leather Erotic Lingerie in front of a high-definition camera! A dominatrix ensemble needs props to complete the setting. Here are some of our favorite play things that will put the oomph to your pictures:

Rhinestone handle whipping – What’s a dominatrix without her whip? Stare fiercely into the lens while you handle this bedazzled whip. Bite, bend and get creative with this staple BDSM prop. The rhinestones will manifest beautifully against flashing lights. It’s the perfect balance of pain and glam! Leave this photo for your sub with the note ‘you deserve a spanking!’.

Statement Paddle – A paddle might not look the most appealing in photos but when it comes with lettering such as ‘SLUT’ or ‘SLAVE’, it becomes more than just a piece you spank with. A picture is worth a thousand words as they say! Play around with angles while holding the paddle to send a clear message that you mean business!

Leather Crop with Metal Handle – Demonstrate how you dominate with a leather crop. This accessory is the perfect tool to make your leather lingerie look all the more badass. Designed for even the hardest play, take this leather crop to make your s/o get on his knees!

 

Sticks and stones may break bones, but whips and chains will surely excite! These props can serve as the erotic balance to even your delicate lingerie ensembles. Explore your fetish and make it a subject of your photo shoot. The world of bondage and domination is too exciting not to document!

Let’s Play!

How much of a dominatrix are you? The following are commonly used terms by Pro-Dommes. Find your footing by crossing out the words that you could relate to, have experience with, or are willing to try: 

 

Count how many words you crossed out and see which level you fall under:

1-9 – One Rough Rookie. 25% hold so much potential. You have so much more to learn, but you are definitely entranced with the world of BDSM. Consider this a sign to take your interest a step further! Release your shackles and explore more on what being a domme has to offer.

10-18 – Quite the Kinkster With 50 % Dominance flowing through your veins, it is just itching to let itself be expressed freely. You know your kink and what you want! Experiment your style the right dominatrix gear to share with your partner.

19-27 – Masterful Mistress You have the kind of savvy needed to rule the bedroom or the dungeon! You have gained mastery of the techniques in BDSM and might have already have a slave under your control.

28-36 – 100% Baddie –Your dominant streak is beyond compare. Your overflowing power just cannot contain itself, and it shows! The BDSM gods are proud!

A dominatrix is not one to shy away from additional knowledge on the risqué subject. If you have reached the end of this article, then congrats, you are a notch higher in the dominatrix scale!

Dominating your partner is always a turn-on, but imagine how intense passion will be once your sub lays eyes on your body in fiercest dominatrix clothing. They will be craving for your next bondage play, and you know what that means — expect the level of your sexual desires to reach a record-breaking high! What are you waiting for? Step out of your comfort zone and see the beauty in the restrained, rough, and risqué! Go, dominate!